This line, excellent. With this, you connected two distinct characteristics, my highlights above, of "stoic-quoting" male writers/dudes with audiences for me.

Stoicism used to justify a general sociopathy is one thing. The way they treat others—service economy workers in particular—is another. It shows in real-time how they see and support a class'd society. Marcus Aurelius, on of the most quoted stoics, not only owned slaves and was insulated from working life, he references the "distractions" and derailments his servants caused as evidence of his philosophy's power. One story I can't forget is of a house-slave/servant dropping utensils and mugs after Aurelius was done being fed. The clanging and crashing disrupted his digestion and reflection. He used his stoic mindset to forgive the servant and not berate, attack, beat, or kill them for such an irritating mistake. How nice of him.

The modern stoic referencing Aurelius wants the same: Individual power for privileged stoics and workers relying on classist benevolence instead of collective power and solidarity to survive.

P.S. Epictetus, on the other (stoic) hand, was a slave himself. He references common experiences and real struggle, and his stoicism makes sense, coming from a place where it was a tool of survival. Viktor Frankl also comes to mind.